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On Porn & Religion, Part 2 - The Distress Gap

3/9/2017

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It’s been reported that religious people are more likely to experience distress about their porn use than non-religious people who use porn. Why? One common answer is that religion teaches that porn use is wrong and to be avoided, and so religious people feel distress over their transgression of those teachings. But is that answer sufficiently nuanced to account for the entire difference between religious and non-religious porn users? Let’s dig deeper.

(The normal caveat applies - this is a huge topic and our perspective is limited by our learning and experience. Polite, thoughtful comments are encouraged.)

Research has established that non-religious porn users also experience distress over their porn use. (For a comprehensive review of porn use statistics, see Barna Group’s “The Porn Phenomenon”, available here.) Let’s assume that this baseline group of porn users will experience distress over porn use for reasons that are completely independent of their religiosity. (This is just an assumption, of course. It’s possible that there’s no overlap between the reasons non-religious porn users in the baseline group feel distress and the reasons religious porn users in the baseline group feel distress. But, we doubt it.) Let’s also assume that religious and non-religious people use porn in basically the same ways and for the same reasons. (Barna's statistics largely bear this out.)

Given these assumptions, our focus is on the extra, religiously-observant porn users who reportedly feel distress compared to non-religious porn users, even though they’re all using porn the same way. Why is that extra distress happening?

To answer that question, we think it’s useful to identify three variables at play in people’s reaction to their own porn use: recognition of a behavioral norm (recognizing that certain porn use is wrong), awareness of transgression of a behavioral norm (knowing you’ve done wrong by certain porn use), and degree of distress about that transgression (how bad you feel about having done wrong by certain porn use). Further, we propose that the difference in feelings of distress between religious and non-religious porn users could have something to do with each of these variables.

The easy answer to why religious people feel more distress over their porn use relies heavily on the first of these variables. The argument goes, in short, that religions impose rules on their adherents that do not apply to non-believers. (Think, for example, of dietary restrictions that bar consumption of certain foods.) The reasoning is that since religion imposes norms relating to porn use that aren’t recognized universally, then the simple fact that religious people have more rules to break regarding porn than non-religious people leads to higher distress rates. That’s certainly a facile explanation. But is it sufficiently correct?

Maybe, but we doubt it. We think instead that other, more universal, norms come into play when religious people report distress over their porn use.

Let’s imagine, for argument’s sake, that religious doctrine added nothing to the body of universal norms that influence our perceptions of porn use. That is, imagine everybody in the world shared exactly the same views on when and why certain porn use is wrong. Which group - religious or non-religious - would you expect to be more aware that their own porn use transgressed a universal norm? We think it would be religious people. Why? Because, among other things, religious practice serves an educational function in society. People go to church and listen to lessons. Religious institutions engage in social commentary. Religious people, in other words, are more likely than non-religious people to be exposed to commentary and discussion about norms of behavior.

We think this is especially true when it comes to porn. In the public debates over porn use, religious organizations account for a sizable portion of the publicity of negative impacts of pornography, such as links between pornography and sexual violence, human trafficking, sexual dysfunction, and addiction. Whatever the religious motive of those institutions in disseminating this information, if you are religious you are more likely to be exposed to it. And to be exposed to information about how certain porn use transgresses universal, social norms is to be aware of having potentially transgressed those norms yourself when you use porn. So, some distress by porn users who are religious likely results from their heightened awareness of how certain porn use transgresses not just religious norms, but also universally accepted societal norms.

So, let’s ask a final question: which do you think a religious person is more likely to feel a higher degree of distress over - breaking a rule that only members of that religion share (“certain porn use offends our God”), or breaking a rule that is universal (“certain porn use harms you and others”)? We don’t have a clear answer to this one. But we do have a few observations. In our experience, the large religions provide not only a system of rules to follow, but also a promise of redemption. Everybody sins and the Divine forgives. People find comfort in this cycle of transgression and forgiveness - it’s what draws many to religion in the first place. Because of these beliefs, religious people have a basis for feeling less distressed than their non-religious peers about transgressing norms of behavior. After all, the certainty of Divine forgiveness takes some of the edge off of messing up.

However, transgressing a universal norm of behavior may result more than just spiritual consequences. Certain porn use can result in relationship difficulties and job loss, not to mention the previously-mentioned societal harms like violence and trafficking. It seems reasonable to surmise that a religious person might be inclined to feel greater distress over a behavior that has both spiritual and tangible impacts, as compared one that is constrained by religious doctrine alone.

Our two cents here is that religious people probably feel more distress about their porn use than non-religious people because they’re much more attuned than non-religious people to all of the potential harms of their porn use. Some of those perceived harms may be unique to their religious beliefs, and that may lead to additive distress. But we suspect that to a greater extent, religious people are simply more aware of information supporting the view that certain porn use is universally harmful, so that when they use porn, they are more likely to feel the full weight of its impact.
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Dobby
3/10/2017 02:25:41 pm

Insightful, as always. I've monitored porn recovery forums for years, and I think you're spot on that religious users are more aware of porn's risks than non-religious users, independent of religious doctrine or shame. They're simply better informed.

It's an interesting phenomenon that most of the self-reports of severe sexual dysfunctions and loss of attraction to real partners (and recovery) appear to be from non-religious users. Could it be that, because they are seldom warned of the potential harms, they continue to use until they hit a wall in terms of severe symptoms? In contrast, the religious users might be quicker to recognize that porn could be the culprit in their symptoms before they become as severe, simply because they're better informed.

Also, because quitting porn is more enthusiastically encouraged in religious environments, it's likely that more religious porn users used it...well, less religiously...than their atheist/agnostic brethren who had no reason to experiment with quitting early on. Therefore the religious users tend not to develop porn-related symptoms that are as severe. There's much research showing that religious users use less porn than non-religious, by the way. Also, it's likely that many religious users start porn use at later ages, which may also be a protective factor.

Finally, religious users are no doubt more likely to quit periodically. Thus, unlike their atheist/agnostic counterparts, they are more likely to discover how difficult it is to quit, and thus be more likely to recognize they are sliding into addiction. A user who never tries to quit naturally assumes his/her porn use is casual and easily given up.

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PornHelp Team
3/11/2017 11:01:40 am

All great points. The theory that religious users of porn are better informed about porn's potential dangers also dovetails with the data suggesting that religious people perceive themselves to be addicted to porn at a higher rate than non-religious users, independent of frequency of porn use. That finding is often cited as a critique - "moral panic", etc. - but it fits equally well with the notion that religious people have more information about how porn addiction may manifest itself (including that it is not simply a matter of frequency of use).

And, even if some religious people are mistaken in their self-diagnosis, as your comment suggests (and as we've written in an earlier post), the consequences of under-perceiving porn's effects tend to be far more severe than the consequences of over-perceiving them.

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