We are here to provide you with accurate, up-to-date information about options for quitting porn.
When we were struggling with our porn use, we couldn't find a comprehensive jumping-off point to help us understand all of the options for quitting porn. So, after we got our feet under us, we built one. The aim of this site is to give you the best and most complete collection of information possible to learn how to start down the path to quitting porn. It's our way of saying to you: "you're not alone."
We also believe that knowledge is power when it comes to reducing the stigma of struggling with pornography use. By making accurate, current, and comprehensive information available, we hope to contribute to breaking down the social and emotional barriers that keep people from finding help for a porn use problem.
How do I know if using porn has become a problem in my life?
Here at PornHelp, we believe porn is a highly potent visual stimulant around which unhealthy addictive/compulsive behaviors can arise. That said, we choose not to express an opinion about whether pornography is “good or bad” in a broader sense. We are focused on helping people, who want to stop using porn, find the resources and support they need to quit. By not labeling porn as either "good" or "bad," we aim to avoid making you, the person who wants to stop, feel judged for or ashamed by your porn use. What matters to us is that PornHelp feels like a safe, reliable, non-judgmental place for you to find the help you need to quit.
That is not to say we lack opinions on the topic of porn. We just choose not to make them part of our mission to point you to the help you need. If you are interested in learning more about pornography and its social, scientific, and spiritual effects, our Education & Research page contains links to numerous informational resources where you can explore the subject in-depth.
Do I need to quit porn altogether? What "quitting" means is entirely up to you. That having been said, in our experience, once pornography became a significant problem in our lives, we found it helpful to set a goal of stopping altogether.
Does quitting porn mean I need to quit masturbation, too?
No. Masturbation is a normal, healthy part of most people's sexualities. Some people may find it helpful to give themselves a break from masturbating as they try to cut porn out of their lives. But others may just as well discover that continuing to masturbate makes quitting porn more realistic. (In the latter case, we encourage people to be mindful about how they fantasize while masturbating. Do they close their eyes and picture porn scenes, for example, or something else?)
We are aware of arguments in favor of quitting masturbation altogether. By-and-large, our sense is that those viewpoints stem from considerations distinct from what motivates most people to quit porn. Ultimately, we do not judge anyone's personal choices in the masturbation department. We just want to help people find a path to quitting porn that works for them.
Is PornHelp affiliated with a religion?
No. We do not advocate or oppose any religion or doctrine. We recognize some pornography users can find the help they need to quit through faith-based programs of treatment and recovery, and through spiritual reflection and development. We also believe that religious and/or spiritual methods may not be what other pornography users need to stop. To make sure everyone finds the right kind help for them, PornHelp collects and presents information about both faith-based and non-faith-based options for quitting.
Is PornHelp political or on some culture-war mission?
No. We don’t take political positions or sides in cultural battles. In fact, we think politicizing a discussion of porn use works a disservice to people who need help. In our experience, problem porn use affects people from all walks of life; politics has nothing to do with it.
Bottom line: we are here for you, the person who has recognized pornography use as a problem (maybe even an addiction) in your life, wants to stop using, and doesn’t know how to start or feels overwhelmed by the process of sorting through search results to find a method that works.
Does PornHelp endorse a particular method of stopping a porn use problem?
Only this: we believe that connecting in person with another human being who listens to, understands, and empathizes with your struggle with porn, and who can support you in finding a way forward, is an important part of quitting. Other than that, no, we don't endorse any particular method. We started PornHelp to make sure you know that you are not alone, and that there is a way to quit that will work for you. Does PornHelp endorse specific pornography treatment providers?
No. We provide unbiased information to explain the range of options that may help a person stop using pornography. Treatment providers are listed here as a service to you after we have confirmed that they advertise some focus or specialty in addressing problem pornography use. But, we do not specifically endorse any of the providers found on our site and cannot vouch for the quality or effectiveness of the treatment they provide.
Is PornHelp only helpful for pornography addicts?
No. This site is for anyone with an interest in how to stop using porn (or any other unwanted, screen-centric behavior) and wants to understand the options for getting started. That includes porn users and loved ones of people who need help quitting porn. Whether it is accurate to characterize your pornography use as an addiction, a compulsion, a bad habit, or something else entirely, if you want to stop, you'll find information here to help get started.
I've heard pornography addiction isn't real. Is that true?
In our experience, the patterns and consequences of a pornography use problem look and feel identical to any other addiction. In 2018, the World Health Organization identified Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder as an "impulse control disorder" with symptoms many would recognize as akin to what's commonly referred to as "addiction." But, really, right now it doesn't matter whether it's scientifically or medically accurate to call problem porn use an "addiction." If you have decided you want to stop using porn - whether it's because it's hurting you, your life, your sense of self, your relationships, your spirituality, or something else entirely - that's all that matters. We're here to help you stop using porn, whatever your reasons, and whatever label someone else might put on it.
Why do so many of the resources found on PornHelp talk about "sex addiction" if my problem is porn, not sex?
"Sex addiction" is a broad (in our view, over-broad) term that covers lots of different compulsive or out-of-control sexual behaviors. Problem pornography use has, for now, been lumped into that broad category. Our advice: don't worry about whether you qualify as a "sex addict" or, for that matter, any other kind of "addict." What's important is that you want to stop using porn, and the resources listed on PornHelp specializing in "sex addiction" might be able to help with that.
Does PornHelp do counseling?
No. We are not therapists or counselors. We do not and will not dispense medical or mental health advice or counseling. We are just here to help you take the first step on the path to quitting porn by giving you the best, most up-to-date information we can about your options, so that you can take that first step with good information in hand.